For anyone whose been in this situation, please tell me your story & how you got through this kind of situation.
I think its crazy, because every business transaction should be put in writing no matter what!! Also, he is suddenly becoming suspicious to me, because anytime I ask for any of my personal documents such as my credit report, credit card info, copy of our business license, he has a problem with it. I don’t get it!! I still haven’t seen these items. He has so many red flags, I’m thinking about calling the police.
1. He has part ownership at a night club & “takes money” from crackheads
2. Tonight he asked me if I was wearing a WIRE
3. He doesn’t like to even answer our business questions over the phone in fear that IRS is listening
4. He’s been locked up more than once & claims its only traffic violations
5. He got mad when I put his legal name in an email I sent him. That is how I found out I wasn’t to use it.
Theres more..
6. He has a fake license from another state.
7. He possibly lied to be about his age, I found his real age on his fake license, then he said that it wasn’t his real age.
8. I have never met any of his friends or family.
9. He talks bad about his family. Claims to have no relationship with them.
10. Even though he has that fake license, he will rent out a different car every month seems like.
11. He claims he’s not sure where he was born, and says his dad is an immigrant.
I’m not willing to put up with it any longer, I just want to move on and I’m just asking how–I’m very distressed right now. Funny, he asked me if I was wearing a wire in the car tonight–but I was actually wearing a tape recorder and he didn’t know it. I need all the evidence I can, because I think my gut gut may be right.
He and I do not own the nightclub, he owns it with some other guy, not that this matters a lot.
Ernest
#1 by AM-NM centaur on August 13, 2010 - 7:58 am
Ruben
Dump him immediately and find someone who chooses not to abuse or intimidate you. He sounds a lot like my ex-boyfriend. If you feel threatened, get a restraining order. Change your locks immediately and notify your neighbors to keep an eye out for your welfare.
The biggest red flag is the part about never meeting his friends or family.
DANGER: sociopath
#2 by Get"R"Done on August 15, 2010 - 3:23 pm
Nicholas
WOW i would definatly calling someone because there is something wrong there somplace. he is hiding something. and if your a partner in this club then you can be in alot of trouble to if he goes down for something. as a partner in crime or something. i would call someone right away as well as i would try get out of this club or become owner of the whole thing and then you can clean it all up. and i would leave his butt! good luck and get out soon. and stop the abuse.
#3 by DANBOSPD on August 17, 2010 - 11:46 am
Erik
Nice resume
#4 by Sensei on August 17, 2010 - 2:27 pm
Marlene
Why talk about your boyfriend?
My concern is why you want to be in that situation!
#5 by FCabanski on August 18, 2010 - 11:56 am
Dora
Retrieve your personal items and documents from him, and dump him.
If he won’t give you the personal items and documents, contact the police and speak with a lawyer.
Remember the robot on Lost in Space, the TV series? This is when he’d be flailing his arms around shrieking “Danger!!! Danger!!!!”
#6 by Scouse on August 21, 2010 - 1:59 pm
Wendy
Get out of this now. Make sure any relationships you have with his companies are cancelled Write a letter of resignation to each and every company
you know you or director and/or secretary to and send it with a proof of posting. The man is a crook so get to hell out of it
#7 by CAT ^ on August 21, 2010 - 5:52 pm
Cheryl
This has to be a gag question…you’re way too intelligent and reported too many ‘red flags’. BTW, you can get a free credit report online from the US government:
#8 by Tashandra P on August 22, 2010 - 8:40 pm
Pauline
Why are you even in a business/personal relationship with someone like this? You really should have thought about who you where getting in bed with (literally).
What you need to do now, is seek legal assistance. Contact a lawyer and see what your legal rights are regarding the business. I would suggest you sale you half of the business you’ve established with him, to ensure you’re cleared of any illegal doings that your boyfriend is participating in.
DUMP HIM!!! and move on!! My goodness, that should have been common sense. You have no need to come here and ask yahoo. answers about that. We are here to help, but when it comes to matters involving any criminal activity (because accepting fake license from under age drinkers is against the law), the IRS and local law enforcement, you have to use your head on that one. Find a lawyer to talk too please, and stand up for yourself.
#9 by Working Hard on August 23, 2010 - 2:15 am
Christopher
You need to get your legal papers back. Call the credit bureaus and put them on fraud alert. Also close the credit card down. I’m not sure of the name, but there is a service that every time someone applies for credit on your ss #, you will get a phone call.
You’re boyfriend is running from the law. He’s hiding, and there’s a good chance he’s wanted in another state.
Are you wearing a WIRE? He’s paranoid to no end.
Don’t call the cops until you get your items back. You need to realize something, he’s a dangerous man.
DO NOT ALERT HIM THAT YOU ARE DIGGING INTO HIS PAST. DO NOT CONFRONT HIM. KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT. GET YOUR PAPERS & SNEEK OUT THE DOOR NEVER TO BE SEEN AGAIN.